Some people say "I don't GET Twitter." I thank Twitter every single day for the major support I have received. I know for a FACT I wouldn't be breastfeeding today if it weren't for Twitter, amongst other things.
I have found this new world of women, moms, on Twitter. Breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping moms. They have helped me so tremendously. I really owe A LOT to them.
I almost quit breastfeeding when I finally came home from the hospital with Austin. I was having to EP (exclusively pump) because I was still giving him fortified breast milk in the bottle. I was stressed being home with him by myself, I had a new non-hospital grade pump, I was exhausted, I was everything a new mommy is, plus so so scared not being dependant on a nurse or monitor to tell me how the baby was.
I was SO mad at the pump. I was plugged into the wall, it was hurting, Austin was awake (something he wasn't much at the beginning) and I couldn't play with him, and my supply was zilch. My mom said that she and my dad thought I should just stop, I was too upset and my being depressed wasn't worth it. I tweeted that I was going to just quit.
I had dozens and dozens of moms write me. They tweeted me, they commented my blog, they hunted down my email and emailed me. They reminded me it's never easy at first, breastmilk is the most nutritious meal for my baby, and once I got to breastfeed and get off that awful pump, all of my hard work would be worth it. I was amazed by the empowering support I got from women I didn't even know. I kept pumping, and that night when Austin was still hungry after his bottle, I nursed him and I realized they were all right. It was the most amazing experience and I would do anything to breastfeed my boy, even if it meant pumping for a few more weeks.
Breastfeeding isn't easy, especially at the beginning. It's scary and difficult. Is the baby getting enough? Is he gaining weight? Should I supplement? Every question I had was answered. I was getting to weigh Austin weekly at Best Fed Baby at Trident hospital, he seemed content after each meal, and no I should not supplement or my supply will never catch up to my baby. I had a lot of frustration with my shield the lactation consultant gave me, and women on Twitter supported me by saying "this too shall pass", reminding me it wouldn't be forever, and offering their horror stories. It was nice to know I wasn't the only one in the world!
Not only have I learned a ton, but I gained the confidence through twitter alone to NIP (nurse in public). WITHOUT those covers. Those covers a pain in the butt. I don't like to use them. I have no problem feeding my son in public. It's a baby eating its food. If you have a problem seeing breasts in public, then you should relearn the uses of the breast. I always wear a nursing tank top under my shirts. I just raise my shirt and lower the little part on the tank top. Austin's head is right in front at all times, and I'm about 99% sure no one has ever been able to see anything, even if they were staring. Christopher didn't even KNOW I was feeding Austin multiple times. People have no idea. You only bring attention to yourself when you try to hide it. If you LIKE the covers that's one thing, that's fine. But I don't. So I won't use it! I did at first to gain some confidence, and then through listening to women on Twitter talk about NIP, I realized I had nothing to hide! I feel very liberated!
There is an amazing site I have linked here about Booby Traps. I had no one help me breastfeed. I had an LC (lactation consultant) and Twitter. I had some friends who breastfed, but it wasn't really on my top list of things to talk about. I just became very confident in my nursing.
Best For Baby has an amazing site about the Booby Traps we face, trying to make NIP NORMAL like it SHOULD be, and giving breastfeeding a makeover! If you are pregnant PLEASE read this! It will help you make that amazing important decision about breastfeeding!
I swore I'd never ever sleep with my baby. I was sure I'd roll over and squish him. But I am coming out of the co-sleeping closet.
I am a co-sleeper, and I am proud. I have done some research, and did you know, more babies die alone in their crib than any baby in bed with mom and dad. The only family bed deaths basically are when the parents are intoxicated, unaware, or the bed is not safe (excess pillows, blankets, etc). I have an
Arm's Reach Co-sleeper and Austin sleeps in there and in the bed with me. He sleeps better, I sleep better, it's easier to breastfeed in the middle of the night... Babies weren't designed to sleep alone. They stop breathing and their heart rhythms change throughout the night in slumber. There is a hormonal connection between a mother and her breastfed baby that connect the breaths and helps baby learn to breathe, and if the baby is in any type of distress, the mother will wake up. It's amazing how God works. CIO (crying it out) has now been proven to lower serotonin levels which is being linked to SIDS, as well as brain damage. Why in the world you would leave a NEWBORN that knows NOTHING other than "mom" or "no mom" is beyond me. When a baby is older I can see putting him down and making him learn on his own, but a NEWBORN?! They don't understand! They are scared and alone, and you're just making it worse.
I found these articles and support through the Twitter world as well. If I didn't tweet that desperate plea about NEVER getting sleep and being up and down all night long with Austin in a standard bassinet, I would have probably pulled all of my hair out. I got a lot of researched information, proven facts, and quiet nights.
Thanks to
@drmomma for the great blog with amazing articles!
I also have gotten spades of cloth diapering tips, tricks, and help from Twitter. I've talked to the creator of Bumgenius herself (@bumgenius, @cottonbabies) and she has taken the time to help me personally with some questions I was having! She even talked to me today about a question I had! I've even had moms GIVE me diapers from Twitter! I've now gotten two other moms to start cloth diapering their newborns born around the time Austin was. They love it, which they should because it's awesome. (Hi @mommurray & rigatormom!). I found my current AMAZING detergent through Twitter (@RockinGreenSoap), won a Banana Bottoms diaper through Twitter (@bananabottoms) and a diaper sprayer from @TheCDReport.
I learned about a very very special little baby girl named Cora. She was born a few days after Austin. I remembered reading her mom's tweets about her birth while I was pumping in the hospital for Austin. One night @kristinebrite wrote the Tweet no one should EVER have to write. Her little baby girl passed away at 5 days old. Kristine later found out that Cora had a Congenital Heart Defect, the #1 birth defect. #1 birth defect? Bet you didn't know that. Neither did I. And 50% of those cases can be caught with a simple teeny tiny pulse ox test. You know, those annoying things the nurses do 12987209834 times on your finger while you're in the hospital? Yeah, those. They don't do them on our babies. And our babies go home with undetected heart defects. PLEASE visit Kristine and Cora's blog. Kristine is doing the most AMAZING job in raising awareness.
I'm going to give a shout out to everyone who has helped me. It's a lot and KNOW I am going to miss someone. I'm sorry & I love YOU the most ;)
@hautesinglemama, @keepemcookin, @TheCDReport, @that_danielle, @NewMomJD, @thebluemoongirl, @SylkoZakur, @CrunchyNurse, @3kiddosunder4, @mommatokmhs, @ashhan123, @holleeinbalance, @myniftynappy, @cottonbabies, @bumgenius, @heartsandhandss, @jdruit, @AppleCheeksDipe, @fentonslee, @wonderkarin, @pattiliciouz, @mandyw526, @earth_mommy, @flwrbtt, @moshermama, @clairelouise2, @marfmom, @havenlilliana, @twomomsandababy, @soapsuds, @mamacavy, @angeliotum, @rigatormom, @mommurray, @radicalactivist, @tryitmom, @induetime, @thehappyhours, @MeMo07, @sbeecreations, @posielove, @andyparas, @esteelavitt, @ilovemonty, @granolamom, @naptimemama, @thechattymomma, @kerisma, @bananabottoms, @butifulmess, @carfreemama, @danielleb1221, @robinpregnancy, @theecochic, @rockingreensoap, @spiffybex, @dragondream, @bambimomio, @mylarose24, @smilyg, @rgnaturalbabies,
Ugh and I can only get to February 7th in my replies. I would actually pay real life money to know the girls that tweeted my not to quit pumping the day I wanted to quit!
Not only have I gotten great help I've won tons of stuff :) I've met amazing people who I cal true friends!